[Unique_Princess]

I recieved an email a few months ago which I didn't read too properly at the time. I was just sorting my emails out and after the death of my aunty nearly three weeks ago now, I reread this email and I found it to be so true. This doesn't just have to be read from an Islamic view, i'm sure a lot of people feel the same way. This was just written by a Muslim person

Losing someone you love… Losing someone you love a friend or a member of your family is probably one of the worst experiences of life. It doesn't matter how strong you are; nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. When you first hear about what's happened you're in denial you can't believe that someone you know and love is dead. You can't bear the thought of never seeing, hearing or talking to them again. You feel numb even fearful at the thought. You keep expecting and hoping against hope to see them somewhere even if it was for a second to say the things you didn't say but fate is cruel and you don't get a second chance to say sorry, thank you or I love you. When you lose someone you start to think about your life and how there are so many things that you say and do that are wrong and a waste of valuable time. You start to consider questions like am I using my time wisely? If I die tomorrow will I have said everything I've wanted to say to the people in my life? Have I done everything I should've done, did I prepare well for the after life? Most of the time the answer to these questions is no because we never think of the prospect of dieing we never think what if there is no tomorrow. We argue with those closest to us and don't forgive them for mistakes. We let our anger take control of us and say things in the heat of the moment without ever seriously considering what we are saying. We never take the time to pray or to offer thanks to our creator for everything he has blessed us with. We always worry about material things but never consider the soul the only thing we will be taking with us from this world. We never satisfy the soul our passport to paradise. We fear losing our friends and family because we feel such strong love for them but do they know that? Do we ever take the time to be sentimental or do we consider feelings as uncool? We never take the time to say those nice things or to just give a smile to show that we love them. We lead such fast and busy lives that we don't have the time to even say salaam in some cases we don't think what if the next time I see this person it's too late or what if there is no next time? In conclusion I would like to say that life is too short for arguments mistakes and waiting for tomorrows that never come. We should make the most of our lives and say salaam, thank you, sorry and I love you more often or just give a smile to make someone's day because a smile says a lot more than a silence. We should live each day as our last and live our life so that we are prepared for our death. We should satisfy our souls and pay as much attention to our soul as we do to everything else and not get caught up in this fast and busy world because this is just a journey to our final abode. Live your life as a good Muslim and ensure that you have secured your place in paradise. Always remember Allah first thing in the morning and last thing at night for you never know when you may have to leave this world and go to the afterlife where excuses are irrelevant, where you stand before Allah alone and answer

[vchenoah]

Thanks for sharing Princess.

Everyone understands grief/loss, no matter the race, color or religion!

[Am Rani]

Thank for sharing!

This is something we all know, but it's very good when we remember is sometimes. Like now, by reading this text…

And you are indeed right, Nessa!

[boo]

Dear Tayba,

That was beautiful… I enjoyed reading it… you are right, it DOES get you thinking, doesn't it?

I hope all is well with you ji… *hugs*

Can I ask you guys something?

Do you think you are regretting your life right now? Do you think you have lost sight of what is REALLY important to you – be it your God, your family, friends, Love, whatever?

I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!)

… and I am sure most of us DO do that in our lives. Unless I am being too optimistic and trying to neglect the reality of life…

Just curious to know…

[Am Rani]

Hi Boo!

I think I'm doing a pretty good job, when it comes to telling my loved ones I love them, and how much they mean to me.

When it comes to myself, live every day like it's my last, I could do better. I decided for myself, when 2007 started, that I should listen to myself some more. I tend to loose myself in working, being irritated about this and that. If I do, I forget to enjoy the small things in life which are precious. I forget to take some rest, and just enjoy. But, as I said, I'm working on it, because I know it's important. And than it's good to see this text above

[boo]

Am Rani:

Hi Boo!

I think I'm doing a pretty good job, when it comes to telling my loved ones I love them, and how much they mean to me.

When it comes to myself, live every day like it's my last, I could do better. I decided for myself, when 2007 started, that I should listen to myself some more. I tend to loose myself in working, being irritated about this and that. If I do, I forget to enjoy the small things in life which are precious. I forget to take some rest, and just enjoy. But, as I said, I'm working on it, because I know it's important. And than it's good to see this text above

[Am Rani]

[Mukesh]

Everyone understands grief/loss, no matter the race, color or religion!

yup understand Grief and loss but its really a difficult thing to accept

[Marine]

boo:

Dear Tayba,

That was beautiful… I enjoyed reading it… you are right, it DOES get you thinking, doesn't it?

I hope all is well with you ji… *hugs*

Can I ask you guys something?

Do you think you are regretting your life right now? Do you think you have lost sight of what is REALLY important to you – be it your God, your family, friends, Love, whatever?

I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!)

… and I am sure most of us DO do that in our lives. Unless I am being too optimistic and trying to neglect the reality of life…

Just curious to know…

UP love you hunny thank you so much for sharing it with us.

I agree with this BOO most of my days i live as a celebration to i treat everyone around me like its my last day or their last day. Like i love to make my family lough before they go to sleep so they don't go to bed with anger or with thought of something bad.

I always took everything for granted when i heard my uncle has cancer and he might die it made my eyes open and look at life differently.

I love you all you guys my other family and you all are very specail to me new members or older.

Well older more then newer LOLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

[Mukesh]

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Can I ask you guys something?

Do you think you are regretting your life right now? Personally NOPE!! its where I wanna be at the moment…

Do you think you have lost sight of what is REALLY important to you – be it your God, your family, friends, Love, whatever?

Here again NOPE!! MY GOD, family and fwends have alwayscome first in my life

I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!) …

Missy Boo expected u to says sums like above 😉

… and I am sure most of us DO do that in our lives. Unless I am being too optimistic and trying to neglect the reality of life…

[boo]

Scar face:

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I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!) …

Missy Boo expected u to says sums like above 😉

hai hai…. good. You're getting to know me yaar…

[Am Rani]

boo:

hai hai…. good. You're getting to know me yaar…

As far as it's possible to get to know the mysterious lady..

[Mukesh]

Tayba, hope u well sweety

nice words from yr fwend…read through it and a few sentences just stuck, got me doing a whole lot more thinking hehehehe lmao

I think below does require some serious thought

lotza lurve

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If I die tomorrow will I have said everything I've wanted to say to
the people in my life? Have I done everything I should've done, did I
prepare well for the after life?

We let our anger take control of us and say things in the heat

of the moment without ever seriously considering what we are saying.

We fear losing our friends and family because we feel such strong

love for them but do they know that? Do we ever take the time to be

sentimental or do we consider feelings as un-cool?

In conclusion I would like to say that life is too short for
arguments mistakes and waiting for tomorrows that never come.

. We should live each day as our last and live our life so that we are prepared for our
death. We should satisfy our souls and pay as much attention to our
soul as we do to everything else and not get caught up in this fast
and busy world because this is just a journey to our final abode.

where you stand before Allah alone and answer to your mistakes.

We should smile more often and not get angry with those we love so
easily because at the end of the day

[Am Rani]

Marine:

I always took everything for granted when i heard my uncle has cancer and he might die it made my eyes open and look at life differently. How is he now?

I love you all you guys my other family and you all are very specail to me new members or older. Awww, that was sweet!!

Well older more then newer LOLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ And that was hilarious, imao!

[RaNi iS ThE BeS]

Tayba ji…

Thanks for sharing, I really liked it.

[Aminath Shaly]

Hi everyone……………………..

I also want to share something with you…………………

Each year he sent her roses,
and the note would always say,
I love you even more this year,
than last year on this day.
My love for you will always grow,
with every passing year.”

She knew this was the last time
that the roses would appear.
She thought, he ordered roses
in advance before this day.
Her loving husband did not know,
that he would pass away.

He always liked to do things early,
way before the time.
Then, if he got too busy,
everything would work out fine.

She trimmed the stems and
placed them in a very special vase.
Then, sat the vase beside
the portrait of
his smiling face.

She would sit for hours,
In her husband's favorite chair.
While staring at his picture,
and the roses sitting there.

A year went by, and it was
to live without her mate.
With loneliness and solitude,
that had become her fate.

Then, the very hour,
The doorbell rang, and there
were roses sitting by her door.

She brought the roses in,
and then just looked at them in shock.
Then, went to get the telephone,
to call the florist shop.

The owner answered, and she asked him,
if he would explain, Why would someone would
do this to her, causing her such pain?

“I know your husband passed away,
more than a year ago,”
The owner said,
“I knew you'd call, and you would want to know.
The flowers you received today,
were paid for in advance.
Your husband always
planned ahead,

he left nothing to chance.
There is a standing order,
that I have on file down here,
And he has paid, well in advance,

you'll get them every year.

There also is another thing,
that I think you should know,
He wrote a special little card…he did this years ago.
Then, should ever I find out that he's no longer here, that's the card that should be sent to you
the following year.”

She thanked him and hung up the phone, her tears now flowing hard.
Her fingers shaking,
as she slowly reached to get the card.

Inside the card, she saw that he had written her a note.
Then, as she stared in total silence,
this is what he wrote…

“Hello my love, I know it's been a year
since I've been gone.
I hope it hasn't been too hard for you to overcome.
I know it must be lonely,
and the pain is
very real.

Or if it was the other way,
I know how I would feel.
The love we shared made everything
so beautiful in life.
I
loved you more than words can say,
you were the perfect wife.
You were my friend and lover,
you fulfilled my every need.
I know it's only been a year,
but please try not to grieve.

I want you to be happy,
even when you shed your tears.
That is why the roses will be sent to you for years.
When you get these roses,
think of all the happiness that we had together,
and how both of us were blessed.
I have always loved you and
I know I always will.
But, my love, you must go on,
you have some living still.

Please…try to find happiness,
while living out your days.
I know it is not easy,
but I hope you find some ways.

The roses will come every year,
and they
will only

[Aminath Shaly]

Too long isn't it????? But i hope you will find it very very interesting………………..

Takecare friends………………..

[boo]

Aminath Shaly:

Each year he sent her roses,
and the note would always say,
I love you even more this year,
than last year on this day.
My love for you will always grow,
with every passing year.”

She knew this was the last time
that the roses would appear.
She thought, he ordered roses
in advance before this day.
Her loving husband did not know,
that he would pass away.

He always liked to do things early,
way before the time.
Then, if he got too busy,
everything would work out fine.

She trimmed the stems and
placed them in a very special vase.
Then, sat the vase beside
the portrait of
his smiling face.

She would sit for hours,
In her husband's favorite chair.
While staring at his picture,
and the roses sitting there.

A year went by, and it was
to live without her mate.
With loneliness and solitude,
that had become her fate.

Then, the very hour,
The doorbell rang, and there
were roses sitting by her door.

She brought the roses in,
and then just looked at them in shock.
Then, went to get the telephone,
to call the florist shop.

The owner answered, and she asked him,
if he would explain, Why would someone would
do this to her, causing her such pain?

“I know your husband passed away,
more than a year ago,”
The owner said,
“I knew you'd call, and you would want to know.
The flowers you received today,
were paid for in advance.
Your husband always
planned ahead,

he left nothing to chance.
There is a standing order,
that I have on file down here,
And he has paid, well in advance,

you'll get them every year.

There also is another thing,
that I think you should know,
He wrote a special little card…he did this years ago.
Then, should ever I find out that he's no longer here, that's the card that should be sent to you
the following year.”

She thanked him and hung up the phone, her tears now flowing hard.
Her fingers shaking,
as she slowly reached to get the card.

Inside the card, she saw that he had written her a note.
Then, as she stared in total silence,
this is what he wrote…

“Hello my love, I know it's been a year
since I've been gone.
I hope it hasn't been too hard for you to overcome.
I know it must be lonely,
and the pain is
very real.

Or if it was the other way,
I know how I would feel.
The love we shared made everything
so beautiful in life.
I
loved you more than words can say,
you were the perfect wife.
You were my friend and lover,
you fulfilled my every need.
I know it's only been a year,
but please try not to grieve.

I want you to be happy,
even when you shed your tears.
That is why the roses will be sent to you for years.
When you get these roses,
think of all the happiness that we had together,
and how both of us were blessed.
I have always loved you and
I know I always will.
But, my love, you must go on,
you have some living still.

Please…try to find happiness,
while living out your days.
I know it is not easy,
but I hope you find some ways.

The roses will come every year,

[boo]

Does this poem have a title?

[Shakalaka Baby]

Wow, I loved this poem too!! It really brought tears into my eyes while reading it… It's so beautiful!! Thanks for sharing!!

And Unique… thank you for sharing that e-mail with us… It's so true!!

[Marine]

OMG that was the most special Poem that i have read who wrote it? Whos the poet and if its you enter it in the contest.

Am Rani jaan he is doing good i guess he never says anything he had fever but its gone and his back to work. We will know more when he goes and see another oncalogist. With gods grace jis lung will be save seeing that the other lung is totall ypsread.

[Unique_Princess]

Hey guys,

am glad you liked the forward.. yeah it is very true… right now its late but hopefully will reply to this thread tmw.. Inshallah. x

[Am Rani]

Marine:

Am Rani jaan he is doing good i guess he never says anything he had fever but its gone and his back to work. We will know more when he goes and see another oncalogist. With gods grace jis lung will be save seeing that the other lung is totall ypsread.

Good to hear he's ok now, Marine. Keep me posted, ok?

[Unique_Princess]

Marine I pray that he gets better soon… x

One of my aunty's lungs was not working either as the cancer had spread there and was on its way to the second lung. Her cancer was renal, it started in the kidney and then there were shadows in the lung, before completely spreading there.. then later on a tumor grew in her windpipe… its such a bad illness..

[Marine]

omg UP that is a horibble thing to go through i mean i just waith and just keep thinking if this christmas or this new year he will be here or gone which god forbit does happened but its life.I don't know what his is called but it was in his leg they removed it… little did they know that it had jumped to his lung. There is a lung specialist that we are trying to get and appointment by his in Nevada but his biiked for the next 4 months.. My bro said he will pull some strings so lets hope.

Am Rani jaan thanks sweety,

[Mukesh]

Mara Jeeesh why all the negative thoughts…..he WILL be okies, have faith…

Miracles do happen…TRUST ME 😉 ….

[boo]

Marine:

Am Rani jaan he is doing good i guess he never says anything he had fever but its gone and his back to work. We will know more when he goes and see another oncalogist. With gods grace jis lung will be save seeing that the other lung is totall ypsread.

Hang in there sweety… hope everything gets better for you… x

[Am Rani]

So do I, Marine. Try to keep your chin up, and never loose hope and faith… And keep us posted, ja?

[MaMa PeGaSuS]

dammmit..dis just added to mah heaviness…

[scarface]

‘Losing someone you love…
Losing someone you love a friend or a member of your family is
probably one of the worst experiences of life. It doesn’t matter how
strong you are; nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one.
When you first hear about what’s happened you’re in denial you can’t
believe that someone you know and love is dead. You can’t bear the
thought of never seeing, hearing or talking to them again. You feel
numb even fearful at the thought. You keep expecting and hoping
against hope to see them somewhere even if it was for a second to say
the things you didn’t say but fate is cruel and you don’t get a
second chance to say sorry, thank you or I love you. When you lose
someone you start to think about your life and how there are so many
things that you say and do that are wrong and a waste of valuable
time. You start to consider questions like am I using my time wisely?
If I die tomorrow will I have said everything I’ve wanted to say to
the people in my life? Have I done everything I should’ve done, did I
prepare well for the after life? Most of the time the answer to these
questions is no because we never think of the prospect of dieing we
never think what if there is no tomorrow. We argue with those closest
to us and don’t forgive them for mistakes. We let our anger take
control of us and say things in the heat of the moment without ever
seriously considering what we are saying. We never take the time to
pray or to offer thanks to our creator for everything he has blessed
us with. We always worry about material things but never consider the
soul the only thing we will be taking with us from this world. We
never satisfy the soul our passport to paradise. We fear losing our
friends and family because we feel such strong love for them but do
they know that? Do we ever take the time to be sentimental or do we
consider feelings as uncool? We never take the time to say those nice
things or to just give a smile to show that we love them. We lead
such fast and busy lives that we don’t have the time to even say
salaam in some cases we don’t think what if the next time I see this
person it’s too late or what if there is no next time?

In conclusion I would like to say that life is too short for
arguments mistakes and waiting for tomorrows that never come. We
should make the most of our lives and say salaam, thank you, sorry
and I love you more often or just give a smile to make someone’s day
because a smile says a lot more than a silence. We should live each
day as our last and live our life so that we are prepared for our
death. We should satisfy our souls and pay as much attention to our
soul as we do to everything else and not get caught up in this fast
and busy world because this is just a journey to our final abode.
Live your life as a good Muslim and ensure that you have secured your
place in paradise. Always remember Allah first thing in the morning
and last thing at night for you never know when you may have to leave
this world and go to the afterlife where excuses are irrelevant,
where you stand before Allah alone and answer’

xxx

Had to copy/paste this again coz for some reason the fonts all weird and I couldnt read the words properly

for someone who loves to express myself through the written form, these days all that comes outa me is

---

blankness, I cant really *express** because I am afraid of the raw emotion that will come outa me…

NOTHING can prepare a person when it comes to losing someone, to death

my heart used to do weird aching samersaults when I would hear of a stranger dying, I remember being traumatized when the principle announced the death of this guys (I never knew) dad, random death upsets me and makes me feel great loss
so the magnitude of losing my mum, I still cant FEEL, its lft me in this vault, so tight, so suffocating..

I dnt knw why I found this thread, but the words describes part of what we have been experiencing..

I miss my mother
missing her more than I miss anything else I can think of..
every second, literally every second, I feel my heart breaks into tinier pieces, nothings the same with her gone
she is my rock, my foundation, my strength, and my best friend, my mother, my confidant, my advisor, my everything..
I dont knw if she knew it, but she is the only one I would actually LISTEN to 🙂 even though I always pretended to NOT listen…ugh am not making sense now… alll this nostalgia is getting to me… 🙁

tnx: Tayba, for sharing this, it helps not only when u know people who are going through a similar experience, but also when u are in that situation as well…

[kenrickdacre]

when u love someone who is your family member or any friend that is worst moment of the life. And that time anyone feel very bad and think that time one back and we could change whatever happen.

[ammyrodrics]

It really hurts when we lose someone so close to us…

[abseventy]

I would rather say if you are meeting for the last time and you know that you won;t be meeting again in the life time then make sure that you end up your relationship on a happy node best would be to give a warm hug to the person right at the time when you are about to leave, this will not only make you feel better but if you meet again in life you won’t find it difficult to face that person and there may me any sort of bitterness in the relationship but at the last moment fish it with a smile for the sake of goodtimes…..

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